COMPARISON BETWEEN TRADITIONAL AND CURRENT WEDDING EVENTS

Marriage According to Islam:-

Marriage is a major step in one’s life. It’s a matter of great responsibility that should by no mean be taken lightly. However, it shouldn’t be complicated to the point if one doesn’t have enough cash to hold an elaborate ceremony with hundreds of guests, one can’t get married.  

Quite simply, a marriage in Islam is categories by two steps.

·         Nikah

·         Waleema

The “Nikah” constitutes of a proposal from one party and acceptance from another (Quboal) in the presence of witnesses. The Nikah can be held at the local Masjid or at home.

The Waleema is simply a dinner to celebrate the marriage, since marriage is, after all, a joyous occasion. The Waleema can be anywhere. One’s apartment, backyard, basement, the local Masjid, a park, a restaurant, a community center or anywhere else. As well, on the occasions of Nikah and Waleema, long speeches and an collaborate program are not required. Remember, simple is beautiful.

Nowadays, we seem to have been so caught up in rituals and customs that we tend to waste enormous amounts of many and time on things that simply aren’t needed. Nikah and Waleema are both sunnahs of the Prophet Muhammad (SAW).

Currents Trends of Marriage:-

First of all, it is important to note that some of the customs followed in Pakistani weddings have no foundation in Islam. However, the Pakistani culture has adopted those ceremonies and traditions from the Hindu culture.

Mangni is engagement ceremony that marks the formal engagement of couple. The small ceremony takes place in the presence of a few important members of would be bride and groom’s family. But in current era, it converts in a large scale ceremony. The bride and groom are seated together and rings are usually exchanged between the couple but in traditional era, the bride and grooms were not seated together.

Mayun is custom of the bride entering into the state of seclusion eight to fifteen days before the wedding. The bride and groom are not allowed to see each other after the mayun, bride is not allowed to leave her house. The beautification rituals begin during this time.

Uptan is a paste made from sandalwood powder, herbs, which groom’s mother brings for bride. She blesses bride and applies “Uptan” to the bride’s hands and face. Groom’s sister also does the same and a thick string called a “Gana” is tied to the bride’s arm “uptan”  is applied to the bride skin each day leading up to the wedding, similar ceremony is held for the groom, where  bride’s mother, sisters, cousins and friends bring “uptan” for groom  and rub it on his skin.

Dolki is a popular ceremony of singing traditional wedding and popular songs on an instrument Dolki. The girl is officially treated as bride. She wears traditional Pakistani yellow outfit.  

Rasm-e-henna takes place a day before the main event of procession. It’s a ceremony mainly of women. They apply Mehndi to the bride’s hands and feet, sing, dance and bless the bride. "Sadka" is performed on the bride.

Barat is precession of family, relatives and friends of groom that accompany the groom to bride’s home for official wedding ceremony. Groom makes his way to the bride’s home on a richly decked house or in a car and “Barat” follows in different vehicles.

Nikah is purely Islamic official wedding ceremony that usually takes place at the bride’s home. Nikah is attended by close family members, relatives, and friends of groom and bride. Usually, the men and women are made to sit separately, in different rooms, or have a purdah, or curtain, separating them.

Nikah Naama is registered in Nikah. The Nikahnaama contains several terms and conditions that are to be respected by both parties. It includes bride’s right to divorce her husband. Nikahnaama specifies “Meher,” the monetary amount the groom will give the bride.

After the wedding is legally announced, dishes of dates and misri (unrefined sugar) are served to the groom's family. Groom is then escorted to his bride where he’s allowed to site beside his wife. This is the time when sisters-in-law of groom play pranks and tease the groom.

Mooh Dikhai is the ceremony of first time “showing of the face” after the Nikah. The couple is made to see each other in the mirror and the bride unveils her face that she keeps hidden during the Nikah. The bride and groom share a piece of sweet fruit, such as a date and family and friends congratulate the couple and offer gifts. Dinner is served to the guests. The sisters, friends, and female cousins of bride take this opportunity to steal the groom's shoes and demand a sum of money for shoes. This is very popular custom and groom usually carries a lot of cash, due to the popularity of this custom. He pays money to get back his shoes and girls divide the money among themselves.

Ruksati is the ceremony to bid farewell to the bride before her departure to the groom's house. She says goodbye to her parents, close friends and family. The Quran is held over her head as a blessing. It’s a pretty touching moment.

Chauthi is the custom of bringing the bride back to her parents' home the next day, or on the fourth day after the wedding.

Waleema is ceremony to announce the wedding to community and friends. It’s a grand reception hosted by the groom's parents. Relatives, friends and community people are invited to the reception and wedding is celebrated with great fun and festivities.

As per my opinion, we should follow the Islamic norms and values and lives our life as per Islamic code of life. We do not get involved in Hindu traditions in our life especially in our festivals. Islam guides us to live life in manner able way to create a healthy society.

Stage Decoration by Flower:

Stage Decoration by Flower stage gives the mesmerizing look to wedding event. Aroma of fresh flower stage decoration helps you to make your event so special. Now in Pakistan stage decorations, blending of artificial and fresh flowers are being used. The combination of both artificial and fresh flowers gives perfect look to the stage. In the wedding ceremony stage decoration is an important aspect. Purpose of flower stage decoration is to make wedding beautiful and memorable for everyone. And the stage decoration shows the theme of the event and gives idea about the purpose of the event.




Trend of placing wooden swing called JHOOLA placed in the center of stage decorated with flowers is very common. This decoration is looking elegant and stylish.

Mehndi Stage Decoration with the combination of Tulip flowers and clothes combination of green and yellow colors are amazingly beautiful and make the scene charming.

White color is mostly used in Waleema settings, containing flowers and other decoration. Ramp walk placed in the center of stage is adding beauty to stage settings.

Usually bright lights are used in barat decoration but in this picture combination of dim lights and beautiful flowers is amazing and enhance the beauty of gathering.

Barat Stage Decoration is the compulsory part of decoration.
It is comprised of beautify and colorful flowers with the grass
colored green carpet to star the attraction factor.

Food

Food is very important part of Pakistani wedding. Weddings are usually remembered because of the quality and the variety of the food served. It comes in many varieties of sweet, Biriyanis, vegetables salad, Russian Salads, chicken, meat, beef, seekh Kabab, fish, chicken Pakoda is also served. And in sweet dish Gajar halwa, kheer, kulfa, fruit Trifle, Gulab Jaman. In current trends, the serving of soups as appetizer.

Main dinner course having Chinese Rice with Some mouth watering Dishes
like Achari and Marchi Chicken, Buryani and Beef Kabab used in Pakistan.

Mostly kulfa and firni are common deserts in Pakistani weddings but Ghulab Jamun, Kheer, Trifle are more delicious and same is currently part of wedding trend.

Delicious Gajar Halwa with Dry Fruits are the most attractive
dish of winter season weeding.

Chicken Korma with Rice is the most compulsory and highly
demanded item of wedding. One can say, wedding can no take
place without these dishes.



Variety of Different Delicious Salads are good addition in wedding dinner that
 attracts people. This can also used as appetizers. 

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